It's ok - the ups and downs of being human

This is a slightly updated version on 14/04/2025.

I was working with a lovely group of humans, participating in practicing some tools and exercises that assist us to move towards the person we wish to be. To become the best version of ourselves and connect with our own inner wisdom. Listening to others say their truths with the different exercises, always reinforces for me how we are all the same, yet unique. Often my friends express the very qualities or feelings that I feel, but they choose alternate words to me. By listening to their words & recognising how they are describing what is also happening within me, is a huge catalyst for my more of my own growth. I feel while listening to these others speak, I become aware how I am expanding also in response and resonating with what they are saying. It is beautiful. We really are all connected and are ONE.

We do acknowledge what is not working in ourselves but we mostly focus on where it is we intend to go. One part of the discussion was about being ok with life. Whether it is judged as good or not so good. Acknowledging that ALL we are experiencing is ok. Often our hurt/traumatised parts have not been allowed to be seen and acknowledged. This inspired the following post.

It’s completely ok that I feel scared, terrified and alone at times.

It’s completely ok that I sometimes fear that the universe/God/All-That-Is has forgotten me, but will assist everyone else.

It’s ok that I fail at times with the tasks I set myself or even in business or relationships.

It’s ok that I am not perfect and still feel resentment or anger or resistance to life at times.

It’s ok I sometimes react to triggers rather than respond from presence.

It’s ok I allow myself to be distracted from being present at times, especially if I am feeling ‘off’ or scared.

It’s ok to want to control my life when I feel I am drifting in the vortex of the unknown.

It is ok to be in the unknown vortex of life. It is where I asked to be. It is ok to receive the change I requested, even if it means letting go of the familiar.

It is ok that the unknown seems scary.

It’s ok that I make mistakes and realise I am only human & mistakes are allowed. It’s ok that mistakes are even a mandatory part of the learning process.

It’s ok to have developed control patterns/strageies that once kept me safe and kept me alive, but now are sabotaging my life.

It’s ok to identify, observe and release these old patterns of control & sabotage so they can be replaced with more compassion, love, abundance and inner peace.

It’s ok to thank these old patterns of keeping me safe until I was ready and with the tools to let them go. It’s ok to be ready to receive something bigger, higher, more expansive.

It’s ok to feel safe in my body, my home and my environment.

It’s ok to receive unconditional love from the universe and from all those around me in my life.

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It’s ok to receive all the unconditional love, abundance, joy, inner peace, health, wealth that is mine.It’s ok that others receive all the unconditional love, inner peace, health, wealth and abundance that is their’s. It’s ok that we do not take from others. Win-win.

It’s ok to be seen by myself and others.

It’s ok to be listened to by myself and others.

It’s ok to acknowledge & be proud of my own growth.

It’s ok to feel anxious at times.

It’s ok to recognise how courageous I have been & how far I have come.

It’s ok to know that in the past, I was doing the best I could do at the time. To believe I was living from my heart when maybe I was not reading the heart’s signal’s correctly.

It’s ok to intend to live solely from my heart & inner wisdom. It’s ok to sometimes not get it right every time.

It’s ok to feel totally unsupported and alone at times.

It’s ok to experience pain. It is also ok to transform my pain into wisdom and post traumatic growth.

It’s ok to really appreciate and be grateful every time I do receive love, support and guidance from other humans on the path or from the universe.

It’s ok to walk a path that very few others understand or walk.

It’s ok that I am aware I am increasing my awareness and levels of consciousness.

It’s ok not to know everything.

It’s ok to be curious.

It’s ok to be inspired and act from that inspiration.

It’s ok to be creative as much as it is ok to not be creative.

It’s ok to doubt.

It’s ok to trust.

It’s ok to have a vision of myself and who I wish to be and to step confidently (and at times, hesitantly) in the direction of my vision.

It’s ok to walk a path that others also tread. It is ok to walk my own path. A path that no-one else has ever walked along before.

It’s ok to see more and more of what is really here as my consciousness level rises.

It’s ok to be a being of love, peace and compassion.

It’s ok if others don’t treat me with the respect I deserve.

It’s is ok that I treat myself with the love and respect that I deserve.

It’s ok I learn to listen to myself and not others when I make decisions.

It’s ok to recognise judgment and not engage in it.

It’s ok to love myself as exactly as I am in all my perfectly imperfect glory.

It’s ok to know I am exactly where I am meant to be, even if I feel I took many wrong turns to arrive here. It’s ok to know I am exactly where I am meant to be even if I feel I am in the wrong place. It’s ok the universe never has us in the wrong place even if we have no idea or understanding of the bigger picture as to why this ‘wrong place’ had to be visited.

It’s ok to know there is no destination, only the journey of expansion and evolution.

It’s ok to detour while on this journey.

It’s ok to be present at all times. It’s ok if I forget to be present

It’s ok to be at peace with where I am and who I am right NOW.

It’s ok that this list could keep going for infinity…..it’s ok to stop now.

Being ok with who and where we are assist us to let go of resistance. Resistance is like fear and it blocks us accessing our inner wisdom and whispers from the universe. Also even the not ok things are gifts from the universe to prod us or push or force us to move in a different direction. It reminds me of this quote from A.A.H Almas, which is a perfectly ok way to complete this post.

“Your conflicts, all the difficult things, the problematic situations in your life are not chance or haphazard. They are actually yours. They are specifically yours, designed specifically for you by a part of you that loves you more than anything else. The part of you that loves you more than anything else has created roadblocks to lead you to yourself. You are not going in the right direction unless there is something pricking you in the side, telling you, “Look here! This way!” That part of you loves you so much that it doesn’t want you to lose the chance. It will go to extreme measures to wake you up, it will make you suffer greatly if you don’t listen. What else can it do? That is its purpose.”

―A.H. Almaas