Creating something new can be scary...

Learning to embrace the unknown....

JO HADLEY

APR 14, 2024

"The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new." Socrates.

There is a lot of opposing views and conflict in the world right now. I am aware of it and at times get triggered by some of it. Mostly I have been training myself to focus on what I can change…me. I learned long ago that I cannot change anyone else and they cannot change me, unless I allow them to inspire me to change. I do think one of my better developed qualities is my ability to change my mind - especially if I hear someone’s views that inspires me to see the situation in a new light.It means I am willing to grow and expand…evolve. I desire to evolve.

I used to have strong views on things, but as I evolve I am becoming less judgemental and critical of other opinions- not perfect but way more open and tolerant. One leap of change came in 2020, I signed up for Lynne McTaggart’s ‘Power of Eight’ groups. During the introduction weeks about using intention with the power of a group, she advised us to be curious and open with those of differing views, as we might end up in a group with people of opposing ideology. I sure did. Lynne advised we ask them about how they formed their ideas (not from judgement of course) so we can understand why they developed the ideas the way they have, to better understand them.I heeded that advice. Well, I didn’t have the chance to ask how they developed their beliefs, but I was willing to listen and be curious when opposing ideas to mine were expressed….it helped me open my mind in a couple of areas.

In my readings on trauma and in my Compassionate Inquiry course, I have learned that we all react, develop coping strategies and beliefs based on our environment- usually when we were children and dependent. I have learned that not only do my own coping mechanisms make perfect sense in a larger context of my home and social environment, especially from my first seven years, but so do everyone else’s. We are all products of imperfect parents, including ancestral issues from at least seven previous generations; an ever increasingly toxic, unequal society and its values and how well our nervous systems have been wired to be regulated.

Now this post is not about discussing our differences and why we have developed them. Nope, this post is about focusing on the new. How can we create a better world? Now even this could lead to a discussion of all various arguments for and against different ideologies, if it is driven by our egos and our thinking program-driven minds. I am intending on writing this from a higher perspective, from a soul perspective.

As in earlier posts, I have declared that in this life, my goal is to know mySELF, know my true self/soul. I also have declared that my in my work I start from the premise that the client has an inherent bodily homeostasis/balance or inner wisdom and knows what is best for that person. That is the state I am attempting to assist the client to access for themselves and assist them to return to, as best as they can in the moment. Compassionate Inquiry talks of our true essence that is wise and knows all. In my opinion our programming, traumas, faulty beliefs and unprocessed emotions contribute to our blocking access to this our true self/essence. So what would it look like if we found it, our soul or true essence? Not sure I really know but I have some ideas….

I am a member of Kyle Cease’s Absolutely Everything Pass. Within this membership, I attend a group called Its Totally Possible, where we meet online and discuss our highest possibilities…it is a great way to focus on the parts of us we wish to develop and also learn to listen and support others. I meet people all around the world and every week I am reminded that we all desire the same things at our core, even though the outer circumstances may be vastly different. Every week, myself and my buddies on the calls all desire similar things- to have work we love, to feel safe, to experience joy & inner peace, to give and receive love unconditionally. I would say these are the attributes of the soul- unconditional love, inner peace, joy. I would be so bold as to state every human would desire these attributes? Anybody not want to feel safe, or peace or love or joy? So how do we cultivate these qualities in ourselves?

Nobody can change us or heal us- it is an inside job. I tell my clients that nobody heals them, I do not heal you. No doctor heals you. If you break a bone, a doctor can pin it together or put it in a cast, but you have to heal it. Same goes with cancer. No doctor heals it but they use their medical tools to assist the body to heal itself. This can be said with care after all injuries or any illness. Medical care assists us to heal, it gives the immune system a boost so its load is not too much….If the nervous system is regulated, aka- opposite to the chronic stress state that most of the world lives in- it allows the immune system to function with less draining of energy for other things. (The more unresolved issues we have suppressed or repressed in our nervous system/fascia, the less energy our immune system has to help our body heal….dissolve those trauma patterns and you give your immune system and digestive systems a boost. This assists us to attain optimal health & functioning. There are many variables at play but this is the 2D version. Life is more 4D or even even more multi-dimensional- there are many quantum fields….so is way more complex.)

If we are stuck in a chronic dysregulated state - aka, fight, flight or freeze, we cannot access the highest abilities of our innate immune system. The chronic stress state allows only for survival. We do to feel safe and it alters our brain’s ability to function and think clearly. No great decisions are made for this state. Helping is not its priority either. I see the world as being stuck in such a dysregulated state…making decisions and living from fear and survival….our world is stuck in its own trauma pattern on a macro level, while most of us, in my opinion, live in our own patterns & programming on the microcosmic scale- the biochemical& bioelectrical reactions that occur within our bodies as a result of chronic stress. Or we see life, as Dr David Hawkins described in his work, from our level of consciousness. Fear, shame, anger are levels of consciousness and if we live predominantly at this levels- these are the filters through which we see the world. Love, joy, peace are also levels of consciousness and if we view the world through these lens’ what a different view we would see- from the same situation. Many quotes allude to this, for example,

Anais Nin - “You do not see the world as it is. You see it as you are.”

I believe that recognising the dysregulated state of my global, local and inner environments, is the first step to cultivating the qualities of the soul- inner peace, unconditional love and joy. Intending to choose these new qualities is important, but only after the dysregulated state we are in is acknowledged. We need to recognise the trauma patterns, faulty beliefs, unresolved emotions that are running the show, only by seeing them can we allow them to transform. After I choose to focus on the new, I usually notice how all the old programming arises within and around me to keep me where I am. Especially fear gets louder….patterns arise strongly….Old programming usually increases its presence in my life whenever I attempt the move to the new. It did so just today- my self-sabotaging part decided to show up and give me a fright because I am being different….I am sitting with the sensations and recognising them and they are getting louder and scarier…there have been times today when I felt like giving in to them but I went and sat under my favourite tree, connected to earth and sky and allowed the fear to be felt….Old non-soul programming and patterns have created a comfort zone for me, even if they are hugely disruptive and keep me limited. They are what I have developed to keep me safe…but those safety strategies are now mostly only harming me. But even a horrid situation can seem comfortable to me….the unknown new is scary because it has never been seen or felt before. I have often drifted back to the old comfortable pattern even though it was painful because it was a pain I had learned to endure…the new…in my analytical mind usually decides the new situation might be more painful than this known pain, so best to stay with the pain I knew I could endure. Until the pain of staying where I was was worse that the fear of the new, then I found myself continually choosing the old familiar pain/pattern. Also just when I think I have dissolved the pattern, deeper layers can pop up again and again to let me know there is more to let go of.

As I became more aware and noticed, acknowledged and felt in my body the sensations and emotions associated with these old comfy pain patterns …the more I was able to be a compassionate witness and observe how it affected my body…then I could begin to release its hold. It is rarely simple and must be done over and over again with each of the seemingly infinite number of patterns I have held in my system. It feels at times like life is a game of snakes and ladders. But as with anything, the more I practice the tools I have learned the deeper and quicker a pattern can be transmuted into the alchemical gold of the soul - more joy, inner peace and unconditional love. I know I have come a long way…there is no ‘there’…or I suspect ‘there’ could be the time when ALL humanity reaches the destiny of living in accordance with their souls. I marvel at the wonder what this may look like!)Then there may be a new ‘there’ to attain….???? This is how I see it, but that is just my mind’s way of finding meaning in desiring to live according to my soul..who knows what the truth is?

I do wonder at what amazing things humanity could achieve if we all worked from our souls? Doing work that expands us and lights us up, knowing we are safe, so then collaborating with others also living from their souls feeling safe, could allow us to create from a different place than life is often created from today.- Creations/work made in inspiration and love; free from fear and not created from desperation or force. I wonder how amazing life would be, if we all could contribute from our souls the work that lights us up???? What could we create? I see glimpses of these possibilities at times. I have a friend who loves to cook and her food is delicious and healthy. I would choose to eat it every day if I could. She cooks from love and that is what I taste in her food. Even her so called simple salads taste amazing. When we put love into something, it makes it better….it reminds me of the film and book, ‘Like Water For Chocolate’ by Laura Esquivel.

I see this in my work. To the extent I have cleared my patterns and have opened up greater access to my own nervous system regulation, I am able to sit with unconditional love and give space to allow others to access their patterns and allow them to transmute them into more inner peace, joy and less pain. Dr David Hawkins explains it terms of levels of consciousness- this resonates for me- as my level of consciousness rises, so does my ability to lift others up, so they get a greater insight into their own issues. When in the presence of a compassionate witness like this, it gives both (client and therapist) a greater ease to release the trapped stuck patterns and unresolved emotions that reside within. This is my passion with my work- assisting others, lifting them up so they can see themselves from higher perspective and watching as they light up, as their patterns are recognised, felt, then dissolved. I know I create a space of higher consciousness, the more I tune in to my own inner peace, compassion and unconditional love, the better I support others - if they are ready. The more I work on releasing my own patterns, the better catalyst I can be to others.It starts with me.

I feel it is like watching miracles unfold when I see someone dissolve a fear/emotion/ pattern before me…but sadly, if people are not ready, or do not believe it is possible, or even if my reflection of unconditional love is too scary for them- yep, if we have unresolved patterns sometimes the healthiest most regulated person is scary to us and the scary person can feel safer…it is often what we are familiar with. How so? Well, in my opinion when I work with someone, I work from the premise the client has an inner wisdom/essence that knows all about them and can assist them to heal. I do my best to see them for their full potential, but if the client sees themselves as small and limited/or not ready to let go, they can receive my ability to see the bigger aspect of them, a threat, then they’re not open to change. I respect this as it is not my job to change anyone- it is impossible- I can only change myself and if I am as regulated as possible then I may be able to be a good catalyst for the other to change by raising the level of consciousness we are sharing. But if they can, on some level, use my unconditional love and self regulation and to see it mirrored in themselves- miracles can happen.Releasing old patterns is a miracle to me- as I witness joy.

I am developing something new with my work. These changes I have seen in the physiotherapy clinic when I work with the open- for- change people, inspires me to create this further because it is an example of work that lights up my heart and soul. That means I must be accessing my soul/inner wisdom. These types of clients are infrequent in the physiotherapy clinic generally at present, as most people have been good students of the old world conditioning. Also many are not yet open or aware of how our bodies really work- that we cannot separate our body from our emotions and the rest of our life. There is much research but it is to well integrated generally, yet.

For me, it is easy staying in a physiotherapy clinic, as it has a tried and true path. But as I know…if it is not lighting up my soul then it is probably harming my health. I have great trepidation forging my new path of creating a True Health Guidance business where I use my knowledge and level of conscious awareness to assist me to help others. There is no tried and true path here…I feel like a pioneer of the inner journey..but having no set path means I am venturing into the unknown….and the unknown is where we access our higher self. Staying safe and seeing a path, is playing safe and staying limited- for me.

Mixing science, spirituality with trauma- pattern release and creating my own niche, is new and continually evolving as I follow the dictates of my soul- of which I know my reception still needs improving to access the guidance accurately without being distorted by my poor patterns etc. I know of others who are doing similar but different work. So it is my intention to bravely step by step create this new business by listening to the advice of my soul. I know at times I won’t hear correctly as my filter for listening is still clouded by some old unresolved patterns, but with every step I get closer to achieving my goal of working for my heart/soul and I will always know I am on the right track by how much expansion and excitement I feel. Also I know I am on the right path as my ego/patterns increase their fear tunes until resolved.

I know mistakes are ok and are only ways to get me back to the most right path.I am committed to learning how to live from my soul….hopefully, as a by product, I can inspire others to live the same and if the whole world lives from their souls- wow what a wonderful world that could be. Change can only come from inside me…so as I allow myself to know more joy, inner peace and unconditional love- there is less room for the fear, self doubt and other faulty patterns.As I let go of my traumas/fears/ unresolved emotions I create more space for inner peace, unconditional love and joy.

If you had a magic wand and could do or be anything you wanted that would light up your heart and soul- what would it be? I predict it would include being of service to others and I also predict it would not harm anyone else? I am fairly certain that the soul(part of all-that-is) in each of us would only strive for service and love. Yes

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